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- Migraine Headaches
- Chronic Neck and Back Pain
- Motor-Coordination Impairments
- Central Nervous System Disorders
- Orthopedic Problems
- Traumatic Brain and Spinal Cord Injuries
- Infantile Disorders
- Learning Disabilities
- Chronic Fatigue
- Emotional Difficulties
- Stress and Tension-Related Problems
- Fibromyalgia and other Connective-Tissue Disorders
- Temporomandibular Joint Syndrome (TMJ)
- Neurovascular or Immune Disorders
- Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
- Post-Surgical Dysfunction
SER is a therapeutic process that uses and expands on the principles of CranioSacral Therapy to help rid the mind and body of the residual effects of trauma. SER1 offers applications designed to enhance results using CST and other complementary therapies.
- Assess and mobilize the Avenue of Expression working through more than 10 different body components, including the thoracic inlet, hard palate and hyoglossal tissues.
- Locate and release Energy Cysts.
- Release suppressed emotions that may be inhibiting complete structural releases.
- Refine listening and comprehension skills.
- Improve palpation and whole-body evaluation skills.
For more information or to find a therapist in your area visit: http://www.upledger.com/
Basic Steps to Your Emotional Freedom
What is the Emotional Freedom Technique?
The Emotional Freedom Technique, or EFT, is the psychological acupressure technique I routinely use in my practice and most highly recommend to optimize your emotional health. Although it is still often overlooked, emotional health is absolutely essential to your physical health and healing – no matter how devoted you are to the proper diet and lifestyle, you will not achieve your body’s ideal healing and preventative powers if emotional barriers stand in your way.
“Everything in my life changed when I got rid of the hatred, the anger, the bitterness, the rage…I can attribute all of that to forgiveness.”
We all have events and people from our past that have caused us pain, both in large and small ways. That’s thenature of life.
How we address and process our memories, beliefs, and emotions about these events is what makes the difference in our lives. It’s what makes the difference between someone who is able to move forward with their life and see meaning in what happened, and someone who gets stuck because of the events, constantly carrying the pain, anger, resentment and other negative and limiting emotions with them throughout their life.
Ask yourself, what events do you have from your life that you believe formed your beliefs about the world and yourself? Do the memories of these events bring up positive or negative emotions?
How Meditation Changes Your Brain Frequency
As yogis have known for centuries and scientists can now prove, the benefits of meditation are profound. Meditation is perhaps the most crucial instrument to harness the power of thought, cultivate more peace, clarity and happiness.
Learning to train the brain and focus our attention is crucial to thriving and cultivating a peak performance in any endeavor.
Longtime psychotherapist Dr. Ron Alexander, author of Wise Mind, Open Mind, speaks of mind strength, or the resiliency, efficacy and emotional intelligence that arise as we begin the process of controlling the mind. Mind strength is one of the most empowering tools we can employ to impact and improve all aspects of life.
There are five major categories of brain waves, each corresponding to different activities. Meditation enables us to move from higher frequency brain waves to lower frequency, which activates different centers in the brain.
Slower wavelengths = more time between thoughts = more opportunity to skillfully choose which thoughts you invest in and what actions you take.
5 Categories of Brain Waves: Why Meditation Works
1. Gamma State: (30 — 100Hz) This is the state of hyperactivity and active learning. Gamma state is the most opportune time to retain information. This is why educators often have audiences jumping up and down or dancing around — to increase the likelihood of permanent assimilation of information. If over stimulated, it can lead to anxiety.
2. Beta State: (13 — 30Hz) Where we function for most of the day, Beta State is associated with the alert mind state of the prefrontal cortex. This is a state of the “working” or “thinking mind”: analytical, planning, assessing and categorizing.
3. Alpha State: (9 — 13Hz) Brain waves start to slow down out of thinking mind. We feel more calm, peaceful and grounded. We often find ourselves in an “alpha state” after a yoga class, a walk in the woods, a pleasurable sexual encounter or during any activity that helps relax the body and mind. We are lucid, reflective, have a slightly diffused awareness. The hemispheres of the brain are more balanced (neural integration).
4. Theta State: (4 — 8Hz) We’re able to begin meditation. This is the point where the verbal/thinking mind transitions to the meditative/visual mind. We begin to move from the planning mind to a deeper state of awareness (often felt as drowsy), with stronger intuition, more capacity for wholeness and complicated problem solving. The Theta state is associated with visualization.
5. Delta State: (1—3 Hz) Tibetan monks who have been meditating for decades can reach this in an alert, wakened phase, but most of us reach this final state during deep, dreamless sleep.
How to Meditate:
A simple meditation to use to begin the transition from Beta or Alpha to the Theta State is to focus on the breath. The breath and mind work in tandem, so as breath begins to lengthen, brain waves begin to slow down.
To begin the meditation, sit comfortably in your chair with your shoulders relaxed and spine tall. Place your hands mindfully on your lap, close your eyes, and as much as possible eliminate any stimuli that may distract you.
Watch your breath. Simply notice your breath flowing in. Flowing out. Don’t try to change it in any way. Just notice.
Silently repeat the mantra: “Breathing In. Breathing Out.” As your mind begins to wander, draw it back to your breath. Notice that as your breath begins to lengthen and fill your body, your mind begins to calm.
Consistency is key. Try to do this breath meditation first thing in the morning and/or at night. Be consistent with your meditation. Shorter meditations on a regular basis are more productive than long sessions every few weeks. Aim for 5 minutes a day and add 1 minute each week
Insurance Company Embraces Alternative Healthcare
Fantastic news that Aetna’s CEO Mark Bertolini openly endorses the use of alternative therapies. See the video and Forbes article where besides embracing alternative healthcare, he shares the positive results of a study Aetna conducted using employees as volunteers. This reminded me of a video from early 2013 that I ran across some months ago where Mr. Bertolini explained how he personally turned to alternative care after he had an accident… a video where CranioSacral is the first on his list. I have received CranioSacral and now provide it and can attest to its power. I am thankful that maybe the tide is turning for alternative therapies.
Hypothyroidism, Nearsightedness, Low Back Pain, Childhood Sexual Abuse Healed with CranioSacral Therapy
Joan’s thyroid symptoms began in her mid thirties. She gained 50 pounds, felt cold much of the time, and became constipated and tired. Her family doctor diagnosed her as having hypothyroidism and treated her with synthroid. For a while her symptoms improved, but over the ensuing five years she needed increasingly more medication to stop her condition from worsening.
“I feel like a dog chasing my tail with the medicine,” she told me. “The more I take, the more I need.It’s not this way for my friends with hypothyroidism. They seem to do fine with the synthroid. I’ve tried armor thyroid extract, too, but it doesn’t seem to work either.”
Joan was clearly frustrated, but hopeful. “Maybe the conventional doctors are missing something. Craniosacral Therapy helped one of my friends with Graves Disease decrease her medication dramatically. I want to see if you can help me, too.”
I agreed to try, saying she’d know after a short while whether or not the work would be helpful.
In addition to her thyroid condition, Joan’s medical history included having worn glasses for nearsightedness since age 6, seasonal allergies to pollens since early childhood, and chronic low back pain for over 20 years. She came from a large, stable, Connecticut Presbyterian family, and reported no major life traumas other than losing consciousness briefly after hitting her head on the windshield of her car during an accident a few years earlier.
As Joan lay down on my massage table, she removed her glasses and handed them to me. “Your lenses are very thick,” I observed.
“Yeah, I can’t see anything without them.”
“Was anyone else in your family–grandparents, parents, brothers, or sisters–also severely nearsighted or nearsighted as a child like you were?”
“No. But throughout my childhood, my eyes just kept getting worse. Every time the eye doctor gave me a new prescription, it seemed like my eyes would get worse. It was almost like there was something I didn’t want to see, so my eyes fought with the glasses and kept getting worse.”
“What didn’t you want to see?”
“I don’t know.”
Though I sensed she was onto something, I dropped it.
She lay down, I placed my hands on her head, and we began the CST treatment. Joan was an extremely sensitive patient. Almost immediately she began sensing an assortment of pulsation, twitching, and heat discharges from many areas of her body as she relaxed like never before.
“I haven’t felt this good in ages,” she proclaimed as she jumped off the table at the end of the session. “When can we do it again?”
Joan came four times during the subsequent two weeks, each time responding similarly to the first treatment. However, despite her fine responses, her body didn’t seem able to digest the sessions and proceed. “This work is often like peeling layers off an onion. Each layer of stress or trauma that gets removed allows the body to feel freer and less burdened,” I said. “But something seems to be paralyzing your system–not allowing change to happen. There are a few things that commonly do this–things that most people are completely unaware of. These things act like corsets or tourniquets to our energy systems. The most common external appliances that I see doing this are eyeglasses that are too strong, braces or bridges across the two front upper teeth, and orthopedic appliances like casts and braces. All these appliances are meant to help people, but they also paralyze the craniosacral system and contribute to people getting sick. I think your glasses are doing this.”
Joan was surprised but interested. So I referred her to the man who helped me reduce my prescription by 40% via vision therapy and exercises, Marc Grossman, OD.
Within weeks Marc had begun reducing Joan’s prescription, and her work with me had deepened dramatically. Over the next few months Joan felt much more energetic, and she lost half of the excess weight she had gained, but then she hit a wall, and her improvement stopped.
“People reach plateaus in their healing processes,” I told her. “We just need to let your system acclimate and to be patient. Your body and psyche know how much change they can handle and at what pace.”
Joan felt relieved and reassured.
Having worked with people’s in-depth processes for 20 years at that time, I knew not to push a sensitive person who had been doing a lot of potent healing. Joan was a beneficiary of the errors in judgment I’d made working overly zealously with patients earlier in my career.
For several weeks Joan’s sessions were quiet and relaxing. Then it happened. While I worked from her ankles to relax her achy low back, she began to gag. Soon the gagging took on the visual of a nasty snake trying to exit her spastic upper abdomen through her throat. Then the visual changed into the penis of the neighbor who had forced himself on her multiple times when she was 4 and 5 years old — just before she became nearsighted. Though her mother eventually discovered the abuse and put an end to it, the damage was done.
Young Joan tried to repress the horror of her trauma as many abuse victims do, by dissociating from her traumatized body literally leaving her body whenever she felt scared — and by going deep within herself and shutting off from the outside world by becoming nearsighted. There was a lot that Joan hadn’t wanted to see, and for many years her protective unconscious mind engaged in a struggle with well-intentioned ophthalmologists who tried to force her to “see like a hawk.”
Initially, with her demon out of its bottle, Joan felt relief at no longer needing to repress or somatize her childhood trauma. Yet these feelings were counterbalanced by what felt like a tidal wave of terror, fury, grief, helplessness, and overwhelm. Sometimes our healing sessions were calm and relaxing. Yet during other sessions the somatoemotional release process ensued, and vivid memories and visceral sensations from her childhood abuse flowed out. Joan learned how to listen to her body and pace herself, and she sought out help from an experienced psychotherapist. This gave her another safe space in which to process the painful emotions and memories emerging during sessions with me or after Marc decreased her prescription another step.
With the full support of her caring life partner and despite setbacks (like when she couldn’t tolerate any more emotional suffering and her neck or back seized up with spasm), Joan faced her demons and healed them.
Today, several years after beginning our work together, Joan’s thyroid functions and weight are normal without any medication. She is mostly free of low back and neck pain and spasm, and her glasses prescription has been reduced by 50%. Much of the anxiety and despair that blanketed her life have resolved as well. Joan stayed the course, and her body healed –a medical “miracle”– sourced in her courage and hard work.
Healing Through Chronic Pain: A physical therapist’s personal journey of body/mind/spirit transformation
Mary Ruth Velicki, a physical therapist and university instructor, endured intense, debilitating pelvic pain for years. Determined to get better, she set aside her initial skepticism and tried a plethora of treatments from the Western, Eastern, and alternative sides of medicine. To her surprise, she underwent incredible healing that extended beyond her physical body to her full person and experienced many direct connections between her body, mind, and spirit. In Healing Through Chronic Pain, Mary Ruth recounts her five-year journey of “healing through the layers” and personal transformation. Along the way, she shares the treatment strategies she used and the support she received from a team of professionals to move past the pain and to heal her whole being.
“50 Shades Of Fucked Up” – A Beginner’s Guide To Modern Energy Work For Sex Abuse Survivers
Where Do We Start?
When you are dealing with a highly personalised energy system where cause and effect are as yet entirely unknown, and literally anything could happen, plus where the status quo, that daily dance on the knife’s edge is of course protected above all else, where do we start?
I got the answer spontaneously in a moment when I was dealing with just such a person in a profound crisis.
My conscious mind, my therapist’s mind, failed – it was too overwhelming just how much suffering there was, just how much everything was in disarray.
When that happens, I turn to my energy mind, and my energy mind said this to the person:
Place your own
on your own
with the gentleness
and with exquisite care
you would afford
a tiny frozen bird
there on your doorstep.
With your gentle
speak in your touch
of warmth and love
of your desire
to make whole
what once was broken,
of your desire and your will
to right what once was wronged.
I will do
what I can
my little love.
I am here for you.
For sure, I am no angel
but what I have to give,
I give to you.