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TAALK TIPS™ to prevent child sexual abuse

Final Masterhead
TAALK Tip #1

When your child needs a medical test done such as an X-ray, CT or MRI, insist on one of the following: 1) being in the room, 2) leaving the door open and being just outside the door or 3) if there is a viewing window, stay where you can clearly see your child. Don’t allow the technican to tell you that you can’t stay due to exposure. There’s no reason why you can’t stand with the technican.
True Story:
I had an opportunity to talk with a mother who’s son was sexually abused while getting a routine medical test done at a local hospital. She was just on the other side of a closed door. The technician had been released from another hospital for alleged sexual abuse and the records were sealed, allowing him to get another job where he had regular private access to young children.  
Take the opportunity to tell the technician about the child sexual abuse statistics and that you’re committed to lowering the risk for your child and invite him/her to go to our website to learn more. This is a great way to raise his/her awareness as well. 
Thanks for continuing your education on how to prevent child sexual abuse. Your increased awareness will make a difference in the lives of children around you.
If you have a tip that you’d like to share with others or you would like to provide feedback on this tip, please send us an email at
P.S. Please forward to a friend.
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Diane Cranley
Founder and President

Talk About Abuse to Liberate Kids

Darkness 2 Light Recommends Those are MY Private Parts


Dear Diane,

Thank you so much for your note. I love Charlotte’s artwork!
It is only through the support of dedicated individuals like you that Darkness to Light is able to carry out its mission of reducing the incidents of child sexual abuse.
Your book, Those are My Private Parts, is a simple, age-appropriate work which gives children the “okay” to say “no” to adults. In a charming rhyming style, you give children the power and permission to “own” their bodies, which is critically important to developing their sense of self.”
Darkness to Light firmly believes that it is adults’ responsibility to keep kids safe from the horror of child sexual abuse, but your text empowers children in such a way that, hopefully, they are comfortable saying “no.”
Thank you again for your work.
Very truly yours,
Anne Lee
(Former)President and CEO, Darkness to Light

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About Spanking

About Spanking…
Spanking—slapping/hitting of the buttocks—is physical violence. This fact alone is reason enough to make the spanking of children unacceptable by the same standards that protect adults, who are not as vulnerable. However, there is more to spanking than simple hitting. Spanking trespasses one of the body’s most sensitive sexual areas—the genitals.
Furthermore, violent socialization of infants and children by ‘spanking,’ ‘bopping,’ ‘switching,’ ‘licking,’ ‘whipping,’ ‘paddling,’ ‘popping,’ ‘whacking,’ ‘thumping,’ etc. conditions children to accept and tolerate aggression and violence. This leaves the child prey to sexual abuse and incest. To address the inappropriateness of spanking children completely, we need to consider not only the issue of physical violence, but also the issue of sexual trespass.
It is a known fact that sex offenders target children who appear to have been victims before (quiet, withdrawn, compliant.) A previous victim of body boundary violations tend to be quiet, easy to manipulate and more likely to comply with a sex offender’s demands.
The harm of spanking has been thoroughly explained and demonstrated over the past century in academic literature, scientific research, legal treatises, and recently in the popular media. We know that spanking is still considered the preferential form of child discipline as 22 states allow paddling with a wooden paddle in schools. Further evidence that spanking is a preferential form of child discipline is revealed in a random telephone survey done by Harvard Medical Center in 1997. 67% of parents surveyed stated they hit their child(ren) an average of once a week.
Some people believe spanking is justified or even commanded in the Bible—Proverbs. There is a distinction between the practice in King Solomon’s day of beating adults on the back and modern practice of spanking/hitting children on the buttocks. The latter is not prescribed anywhere in the Bible.
Furthermore, the Old Testament contains passages that could be (and in some incidents have been) construed as divine endorsements of wife-beating, racial warfare, slavery, the stoning to death of rebellious children and other behaviors that are outrageous by today’s standards.
Our laws and cultural values are unambiguous concerning adults who physically hit/slap or verbally threaten adults. It is recognized as criminal, and we hold the offenders accountable. Why then, when so much is at stake for society, do we accept the excuses of those who hit children? Why do we become interested in the needs of children only after they have been terribly victimized, or have become delinquents victimizing others?
The answer is: We cannot believe that hitting children is abuse until we can honestly acknowledge the mistreatment from our own childhood experiences and examine the shortcomings of our own parents. To the extent we feel compelled to defend our parents and guard their secrets, we will do the same for others. We will promote physical punishment as a ‘standard’ form of discipline or look the other way. By continually insisting that we ‘turned out okay,’ we are reassuring ourselves and diverting ourselves from deeply hidden unpleasant memories.
Recognition of the harm of spanking can only begin with an acknowledgment of the truth. It is futile to hope that denial, lies, evasions and excuses can somehow erase the memory and pain of past injuries.
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Author
“If I’d Only Known…Sexual Abuse in or out of the Family:
A Guide to Prevention, specializes in: Emotional healing and Physical/Sexual Abuse Recovery”
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